Awhile ago I wrote about knowing that summer had arrived when I smelled it in Archer's hair and now, fall is here, the burning leaves, pumpkins everywhere, and already, before I even realized it, Trick or Treating again! A year ago Archer was 2 1/2, wearing a monkey costume, opening the door for the kids and they were yelling to their moms "there's a baby handing out candy!" I didn't get a new costume for him this year, hopefully the monkey costume still fits. And I'm lucky enough that he hasn't demanded to go out collecting candy yet, I think he'll be just as happy this year as he was last year to open up the door and give treats away.
Something I'm realizing lately, as Archer gets older and smarter, is that its up to me to set the tone for what's going on in our home. Some people may call this mind games or manipulation, but I call it keeping things positive and keeping our house happy. Like tomorrow, when we're handing out treats to the kids, Archer doesn't know he's missing out on the other side of the experience. And I'm figuring out how to get him moving in the right direction before he even realizes what direction he'd rather be going. Manipulation? Steering. Keeping the peace. Not just the peace, the positive atmosphere.
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