I saw something today... Archer was watching tv and Shelly was making little singing noises. "Ooo! Aahh! Ooo! Aahh!" I walked to where I could see them and saw Archer with his hand over his ear, sitting quietly and Shelly was gently touching his head, poking him gently as she said "oohh aahh!" He ignored her, and she kept doing it. I wonder how often this kind of thing happens and I don't notice - she does something that could be incredibly annoying, he tolerates it. I usually intervene when Archer starts to whine and Shelly's really bugging him. I tell him he needs to be more patient and understanding. What I don't see is all the times that he IS patient and understanding. He tolerates a lot from her. He isn't the only kid in the family any more. And he compensates for this by insisting on being the leader, pushing his way through the door before anyone else, running ahead in the woods, insisting on going out this door and not that one. While part of me has to insist that we do things my way and not his, another part of me really needs to remember - he's coping with people that are older than him always telling him what to do, and someone that's younger than him constantly invading his space and taking stuff away from him. For all that, I think he's doing pretty well!
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